On Letting Go

“Choose if your loved ones are to know all that I (God) can be to them, or if they are to miss the best, because they have you instead.”  –Amy Carmichael

Ouch, or maybe more appropriately, whoa.   Let it Go

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“I don’t want to die from someone else’s addiction.”

Some of us have grown up in a context of alcoholism where things were a tiny bit crazy — or a lot.  Some of us have married an alcoholic or raised one. At any rate, we love an addict or are under their jurisdiction in one form or another, and it affects us. We can shrivel up and die from the affects of someone else’s addiction literally or figuratively. It can suck the life right out of us if we let it. Thank God, there’s a solution for us too.  It doesn’t have to be that way.isolation

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Thanksgiving Power – New Year’s Style

When Ted got into treatment I was nothing but grateful for five years straight. It was as though my prayer life simplified by 1000.  “God,” I would say all the day long, “Two words — Thank You.” In a way I lied because I would often say the two words about 12 times in a row which would be 24 words.    heart around sun

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5 Ways to Live a Life of Gratitude, Christmas Style

At Starbucks with a new friend from my 12 Step group, she handed a gift to me across the table —  a gratitude journal. “It helps me to start my day with ‘Thank You’,” she said. I copied her ways and it hasn’t just helped me, it’s a game-changer.

Gratitude list

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In Our Bones, Brains and Belly

Those of us who have children in addiction feel it in our bones. No, we really do. A shoulder aches out of nowhere. Skin rashes happen. We sleep a lot from emotional exhaustion and for escape. In our son’s latter years of using, I had a surgery, two unrelated E.R. visits, joint pain and more. My husband had a surgery and other procedures. Our son’s been in long-term recovery for seven years and we’ve thus been as they say, healthy as horses. Call it coincidence, I’m just saying.  Fog for website
For decades, neuroscientists have been aware that a specific brain circuit is involved in registering physical pain. Whether you get pricked with a needle or sprain your ankle, many of the same neural circuits come alive to process the pain: the insula, the cingulate cortex and the somatosensory cortex. Scientists have discovered that
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