Guest Publish: Enable — we do it and spew it.

I largely experienced great kindness in my dark days of parenting. My friends prayed and encouraged while I blamed and shamed myself. But how easy it is for us — for me — to armchair quarterback a parent who is doing the best they can with what they know, or don’t know. Thanks to Katherine Ketcham for a call to grace.

I Hate the Word ‘Enable’: Getting Blamed & Shamed When You Have a Child with an Addiction

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Coming Out of the Fog. On Treatment

Our son says treatment is a place where one acquires education and enlightenment as to one’s addiction and is given tools to embrace a new and different way of living apart from substances. Fog-dissolving.

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It Was Enough

Just Between Us magazine is focusing on the positive.  Oh, there’s reality, but in celebration of the upside of life’s downsides, we wrote articles for JBU on the gifts of recovery.  “The lesser atrocities of what used to be addiction?”   Nope, gifts. You might be thinking … 

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Read Ted’s companion article here

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Looks Bad on Paper

Years ago, about ten rows back in the auditorium a tearful mom talked to me after a school presentation on the dangers of alcohol and other drugs. “I don’t do anything that matters,” she said. “I’m so consumed with my son’s drug problem.” I could relate to the moon and back having felt that way to be sure. It gave new perspective to hear her say it out loud. What she does matters — she loves someone.

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She let go.

I heard it was good, so upon request my friend, Carol, sent to me a talk she gave at a group event. I think I’ve shared this piece on letting go but some things need to be our home screen and for me, this is one of them.

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