It’s a Wonderful Life but it’s a Lot.

I struggle with people’s occasional (?) weirdness. Weirdness defined as not thinking the way I think, which is of course the right and only way.  I feel hurt, confused and “What?” “Oh,” “Okay,” and “WhatEVER” about it. Makes me not want  to be vulnerable and offer my something to be rejected. Makes me want to sit in my house in a butt-pocketed, well-worn La-Z-Boy with the same exact routine which does not involve getting involved. Makes me not want to give back, give out, give away. Makes me want to give up.

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Coming Out of the Fog. On Treatment

Our son says treatment is a place where one acquires education and enlightenment as to one’s addiction and is given tools to embrace a new and different way of living apart from substances. Fog-dissolving.

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Looks Bad on Paper

Years ago, about ten rows back in the auditorium a tearful mom talked to me after a school presentation on the dangers of alcohol and other drugs. “I don’t do anything that matters,” she said. “I’m so consumed with my son’s drug problem.” I could relate to the moon and back having felt that way to be sure. It gave new perspective to hear her say it out loud. What she does matters — she loves someone.

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She let go.

I heard it was good, so upon request my friend, Carol, sent to me a talk she gave at a group event. I think I’ve shared this piece on letting go but some things need to be our home screen and for me, this is one of them.

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When It All Aligns. Guest Blog by Treatment Specialist, Ben Bertsch

By the grace of God there comes a moment in the life of a person abusing substances where enough is enough and it’s time to get help. They may say they were sick and tired of being sick and tired. For many it’s as dramatic as choose treatment or die. On the lighter side of a dark situation our son adds, “and I didn’t have anything else going on that day.” It (intervention, legal consequences, a friend’s strong suggestion, desperation, the will to live, an illumination) or all, overlaps to form a moment of clarity. Since we fear what we don’t understand, I thought it might be helpful to have a professional demystify treatment for us. 

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