Guest Blog: “I want to thrive in life.” Tyler Reitzner

Recognizing National Recovery Month in September, my new friend, Tyler Reitzner generously agreed to write a guest blog with a bit of his story. Tyler works to bring trauma forward as an oft-ignored possible component of addiction. See links below. Thank you, Tyler, for a picture of joy in recovery.

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“I don’t want to die from someone else’s addiction.”

Some of us have grown up in a context of alcoholism where things were a tiny bit crazy — or a lot.  Some of us have married an alcoholic or raised one. At any rate, we love an addict or are under their jurisdiction in one form or another, and it affects us. We can shrivel up and die from the affects of someone else’s addiction literally or figuratively. It can suck the life right out of us if we let it. Thank God, there’s a solution for us too.  It doesn’t have to be that way.isolation

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5 Ways to Live a Life of Gratitude, Christmas Style

At Starbucks with a new friend from my 12 Step group, she handed a gift to me across the table —  a gratitude journal. “It helps me to start my day with ‘Thank You’,” she said. I copied her ways and it hasn’t just helped me, it’s a game-changer.

Gratitude list

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In Our Bones, Brains and Belly

Those of us who have children in addiction feel it in our bones. No, we really do. A shoulder aches out of nowhere. Skin rashes happen. We sleep a lot from emotional exhaustion and for escape. In our son’s latter years of using, I had a surgery, two unrelated E.R. visits, joint pain and more. My husband had a surgery and other procedures. Our son’s been in long-term recovery for seven years and we’ve thus been as they say, healthy as horses. Call it coincidence, I’m just saying.  Fog for website
For decades, neuroscientists have been aware that a specific brain circuit is involved in registering physical pain. Whether you get pricked with a needle or sprain your ankle, many of the same neural circuits come alive to process the pain: the insula, the cingulate cortex and the somatosensory cortex. Scientists have discovered that
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What Just Happened?

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In The Wizard of Oz, Dorothy finds herself swept up in a tornado, lifted and twisted around until she lands abruptly in an unfamiliar place. She is disoriented and confused when she says to her dog, “Toto, I have a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore.”

As I walked to my car after attending my first meeting of a 12-step program for families of alcoholics, I was Dorothy. “Oh this is special,” I thought to myself as the tears let loose in the dark parking lot. “I have enlisted in a program whose participants’ common denominator is that we love an addict.” What happened to my smaller world where recovery was what one did after surgery, not a discipline to reclaim one’s life from the devastation of substance abuse or the effects of another’s?…

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