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It’s a Wonderful Life but it’s a Lot.

I struggle with people’s occasional (?) weirdness. Weirdness defined as not thinking the way I think, which is of course the right and only way.  I feel hurt, confused and “What?” “Oh,” “Okay,” and “WhatEVER” about it. Makes me not want  to be vulnerable and offer my something to be rejected. Makes me want to sit in my house in a butt-pocketed, well-worn La-Z-Boy with the same exact routine which does not involve getting involved. Makes me not want to give back, give out, give away. Makes me want to give up.

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Guest Publish: Enable — we do it and spew it.

I largely experienced great kindness in my dark days of parenting. My friends prayed and encouraged while I blamed and shamed myself. But how easy it is for us — for me — to armchair quarterback a parent who is doing the best they can with what they know, or don’t know. Thanks to Katherine Ketcham for a call to grace.

I Hate the Word ‘Enable’: Getting Blamed & Shamed When You Have a Child with an Addiction

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Coming Out of the Fog. On Treatment

Our son says treatment is a place where one acquires education and enlightenment as to one’s addiction and is given tools to embrace a new and different way of living apart from substances. Fog-dissolving.

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It Was Enough

Just Between Us magazine is focusing on the positive.  Oh, there’s reality, but in celebration of the upside of life’s downsides, we wrote articles for JBU on the gifts of recovery.  “The lesser atrocities of what used to be addiction?”   Nope, gifts. You might be thinking … 

Read the article here

Read Ted’s companion article here

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Who can understand the mother-heart?

In searching for a Good Friday image, I came to rest on one of Jesus’ mother watching her son die a slow death. There was nothing she could do. In her face is the absorption of all things wrong and horrible.

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